| Stop
Self Sabotage Cold
by Charles Burke
I heard my wife, Shioe, shouting
in the other room.
My wife, a quiet, soft spoken lady
at all times, never shouts, so this was a curious
event. I stepped across the hall into her office
to find out more.
She was just hanging up the phone
as I entered, and she was pale and visibly shaking.
Before I could ask what was wrong,
she volunteered, "That was Mr. Kato. He asked
me to speak at an international conference this
Saturday (four days away), and there'll be over
300 people from all over the world at that thing.
I can't refuse him, but what do I do? I'm petrified.
Oh, and the speech has to be in English."
"Well," I offered, "You
know that new technique I mentioned the other
day? You want to try it?"
That "new technique" is
EFT, a method for using the Chinese accupressure
points to mechanically rearrange the body's energy
pathways and remove "crossed wires."
It literally removes the energy from fears.
If you're not familiar with ancient
medical practices, you may not have heard about
accupressure or accupuncture points. If not, the
previous paragraph may sound like so much gibberish.
But even if you HAVE heard of them, this latest
technique may be seriously pushing the limits
of what you're willing to accept.
But back to my story.
I offered to show Shioe the dozen
or so points to tap. Yes, tap. No needles, no
massaging, just tapping six or seven times on
each of a series of points in a certain sequence.
I took her through the one-minute
routine two times, and within those two minutes,
her breathing slowed, her color returned to normal,
and the shaking in her legs disappeared. I asked
her how she felt now about speaking at the conference.
"I've got a lot of practicing
to do. I'd better get busy."
No more paralysis. No more terror.
Only a matter-of-fact eagerness to get started.
And smiles. She was perfectly comfortable
with an idea that, minutes earlier, had had her
shaking in her socks.
Later I went into her office and
found her tapping "to reinforce it, just
in case." But still no fear.
That was unarguable proof to me.
For as long as I've known Shioe, she has had a
STRONG reluctance to speak before a group - any
group.
She has done brief speeches in the
past, for very small groups of eight or ten, and
those were traumatic enough. But this was an international
conference on North Korean Refugees to be held
in Tokyo, and there would be journalists and representatives
from all over the world in attendance.
Then about five days later, while
Shioe was away in Tokyo, I received an email from
an aunt regarding the antics of a relative of
mine. Every time this particular relative decides
to "act up," I react by getting angry,
frustrated and hyper. It's a long-standing reaction
of mine.
At the height of my frustration,
I sat down, did a quick round of tapping, and
suddenly, in the middle of it, between one breath
and the next, I went from major upset to delighted
laughter. And I haven't been upset since.
Within seconds I found that I'd
gained instant perspective. Now I simply can't
quite remember why I was ever so upset. Oh, I
still care what happens, and I want the best for
that relative, but I'm not immobilized by my reaction
to their escapades now. What a marvelous gift.
So what the heck IS this EFT?
Some readers may have already heard
of it. But if you haven't, here's a quick backgrounder.
EFT, taught by Gary Craig, gives
you a sequence of 12 pressure points (5 on the
face, 2 on the body, and 5 on the hand) that can
clear away any unresolved tensions connected with
particular experiences or fears from your past.
There's also a 13th point on the
back of the hand, but it's used between rounds
of tapping to balance and engage all the brain's
"circuits" equally in the sorting-out
process.
If you'd like to get more details,
you can find a free 80-page PDF manual at http://www.emofree.com/freestuff.htm.
This manual will give you full instructions
and everything you need to start defusing your
own fears, phobias and challenges. You'll also
find dozens and dozens of case histories there.
These case histories outline in graphic form many
of the things EFT has already been used for.
They range from a fear of heights
to Vietnam vets with long-standing post traumatic
stress disorder.
EFT was developed by Gary Craig
from earlier work done by Dr. Roger Callahan.
Dr. Callahan, a psychologist with
over 40 years of experience, accidentally discovered
that tapping on certain accupoints would painlessly
and almost instantly remove phobic fears. He developed
this into a system he calls TFT -Thought Field
Therapy.
EFT is a simplified version that
appears to be fully as effective as TFT, but does
not require complex application strategies.
EFT simply has you tap on all the
pressure points in sequence, rather than trying
to determine which ones require the treatment.
It takes a few seconds longer to do a full round
of tapping, but hey, the long version only takes
a minute in total, so why not do 'em all?
But the title of this article mentions
stopping self sabotage. What about that?
One of the most important discoveries
by Dr. Callahan was what he calls "psychological
reversal."
He found that the energy flowing
through the body's energy "meridians"
can become reversed, as though your batteries
had been put in backwards. The worst part? You
can't feel whether you're reversed or not.
If you're familiar with muscle testing
or kinesiology, you probably already know about
this.
When you're psychologically reversed,
it does no good to do affirmations.
You say over and over, "I'm
getting richer and richer," and what happens
is the reverse. All that energy you're feeding
into your positive thoughts gets short-circuited
into negative results - your batteries are in
backwards, remember? Then you end up unwittingly
sabotaging all your own best intentions. You don't
follow through on things you fully intended to
do. You shoot yourself in the foot over and over.
I guess nearly everybody has experienced
this. I certainly have. But I never knew WHY it
happened. For the longest time I thought there
was just something defective with me.
Now I know what causes that to happen.
Even better, thanks to EFT, I also
know how to correct it.
There are two spots on your chest
and two spots on your hands that you can tap,
and if your energy is reversed, they will un-reverse
it. (But if you're NOT reversed, tapping them
does no harm.)
Un-reversing your energy before
you start your inner work will let your energy
be directed where you really want it to go
This un-reversing may last for anywhere
from 5 minutes to an hour, but during that time,
you can safely and effectively do your affirmations,
meditations, or self-hypnosis suggestions. Or
your EFT tapping.
Nobody is quite sure why some people
get this reversal more frequently than others,
but it IS recognized that some are more prone
to it.
This tendency to reverse polarity
doesn't really matter now, however, because once
you tap to un-reverse, your inner work will be
fully effective.
Even better, if you'll consistently
un-reverse your polarity a few times a day (no
need to get compulsive about it, though), sooner
or later your body will catch on to this new pattern
and begin staying un-reversed for longer and longer
periods.
Here's how you do it.
Use any one of the four points:
*
The "karate chop point" on the side
of either hand
*
The "sore spot" on either side of the
upper chest
about
3 to 6 inches (7-15cm) above the nipple
If you use the karate-chop point,
tap rather briskly (but never hard enough to hurt)
using the first two fingers of the other hand
(about 3-4 beats per second) and say:
"Even
though I have this (problem, pain or difficulty),
I fully and completely accept myself."
Do that three times in succession,
and put some real expression into your statement.
Using firm statements is more effective than a
flat, emotionless statement.
If you use the "sore spot,"
you'll rub it round and round rather than tap,
but otherwise, the routine is the same.
That's it. Do it three times, then
you're ready to do whatever inner work you prefer.
And you'll be putting your energy
into the positive aspect of your project. Gone
will be the unwitting self sabotage that you've
been getting in the past.
How do I know most people have this
experience of self sabotage? That's easy. The
rare person who never experiences this reversal
is accustomed to having things go right for them
all the time.
They are so familiar with everything
working right, always following through properly,
always doing exactly what they intended to do,
that they never feel the need to read self-help
books, listen to tapes or read newsletters like
this. With everything working fine, what is there
to fix?
But for all the rest of us mere
mortals, this technique is something we've been
seeking for years. It gives us a more level playing
field in the game of life, and it answers that
old question: "What made me DO that?"
Will one or two rounds of EFT instantly
clear away every problem, every time? No, it won't.
Not every time.
Here's why. Sometimes a problem
comes in several pieces. Take my wife's fear of
speaking in public, for example. It turned out
to be a one-piece fear, and she rid herself of
it quickly and easily.
Sometimes, however, that fear may
have several aspects. I might be afraid of the
idea of speaking in public. I get rid of that,
then I find that I'm also afraid of all those
eyes looking at me. I do another couple of rounds
to get rid of that, and then I discover that I'm
also afraid of people laughing at me. I might
find lots of different aspects or pieces involved
in what I originally thought was one seamless
fear.
When that happens, the simple, logical
thing to do is just keep knocking them down. Sooner
or later, I'll get through all those different
aspects of my fear, and then I'll be totally free.
No more fear.
Will it stay fixed? In most cases,
yes. It lasts.
Now, most people, even if they have
several aspects to their problem, don't have more
than a handful or so. In some cases, there might
be 10 or 12 different pieces. Okay, so it takes
more than two minutes to resolve a lifelong fear.
Maybe it takes 15 or 20 minutes. Or you might
have to work on things for several sessions. So
what?
Contrast that with the number of
sessions typically involved with traditional therapy.
So what's to lose? Nothing but a
little time and effort.
And your fears.
Best of all, this is self-help at
its best because you can do it for yourself.
However, you may not be quite sure
how to get yourself started. You may feel the
need to get help from someone who already knows
their way around EFT. If so, go to: {http://www.emofree.com/Practitioners/referralMain.asp}.
There, you'll find links to hundreds
of practitioners in 40-some states of the US and
in 27 countries around the world.
Can't find a practitioner in your
city? No problem. EFT can be done via telephone,
so you can easily work with somebody hundreds
of miles away, or even in a different country.
Distance is absolutely no limitation with EFT.
If you feel like you'd rather start
off with someone you already know, I can accept
a few phone sessions, but remember, you'd be calling
me in Japan. If that's agreeable, drop me an email.
I'll be happy to discuss your particular situation
with you and settle on a mutually convenient time
and other details.
Oh, and my wife's speech?
She tells me it couldn't have gone
more smoothly. She flew up to Tokyo, as scheduled,
and give her presentation to those 300 people
from Europe, the US and Asia. And she never felt
a flutter. For the first time in her life, she
said she felt absolutely confident while giving
a presentation. Total triumph.
Ready for some of that in your own
life?
Cheers from sunny Japan,
Charles
~~ CharlesBurke.com ~~
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